Being a professional dominatrix requires a great deal of skill and discretion. Not only do you need to know a variety of techniques that will keep your submissive in a state of submission, but you also have to maintain your own professional demeanor.
In order to maintain a professional demeanor during a live session, it’s essential that you create and maintain clear boundaries. Give your submissive permission to respect and trust you as an authoritative figure by communicating your expectations upfront. Explain that you expect respect, that you’ll be in charge throughout the session, and that any expectations the submissive has should be discussed and agreed upon in advance.
It’s also important to be consistent and reliable to ensure that you’re seen as a professional. Respond regularly to emails, arrive prepared and on time for sessions, and remain polite and professional during all of your interactions, even if the situation becomes challenging. Never use offensive language or physical force unless it is agreed upon by both parties and is as an agreed upon part of a planned scene.
Your presence should be professional even when not in the middle of a live session. It’s important to dress in a way that shows respect for the submissive, your environment, and yourself. Professionalism starts with your presentation and should reflect your level of skill and respectworthiness.
Your body language can also help you maintain a professional demeanor. Posture is important and can help convey authority. Keeping your chest and chin up, shoulders back, and holding your head high will show confidence and demonstrate authority.
Your words should remain professional and sensitive particularly when providing feedback or criticism. Rather than pointing out mistakes, explain your expectations in a constructive way. Speak with consideration and respect for your submissive.
Finally, remember that you’re in charge and being a professional dominatrix is more than just role-playing, it’s your job. Keeping a professional demeanor not only prevents any incidents from occurring but also ensures that you’re seen as a professional and respected dominatrix. Extra resources.
What are some common terms and definitions within femdom?
Femdom (or Female domination) is a form of BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism) which involves power exchange between a female dominant (Domme) and a male submissive (sub). It can refer to a variety of activities, such as physical and psychological dominance, erotic humiliation, spanking, role-playing, teasing, and more. As with any type of BDSM, it’s important for both participants to communicate and practice consensual non-consent.
Below are some common terms and definitions within femdom:
Domme – A female dominating partner.
Submissive/sub – A male partner who gives up control and offers submission to the domme. They are usually referred to as a slave in some scenarios.
Dominance and Submission – This refers to the exchange of mutual power between the Domme and the submissive. The exchange can include physical and psychological dominance as well as the exchange of sexual pleasure.
Bondage/Restraint/Restraints – The use of props, such as handcuffs, ropes, and other devices, to tie up the submissive partner. This is done in order to give the Domme complete control and power over the sub.
Sadism/Masochism – This is a form of pleasure derived from either inflicting pain or being subjected to it. It is usually consensual, but can also be done in a non-consensual way.
Humiliation/Erotic Humiliation – This involves both verbal and physical humiliation to the submissive partner. It is done to enhance the power exchange and can include making the submissive do degrading tasks or wear extra humiliating clothing.
Spanking – Spanking is the practice of hitting or slapping the submissive, either on the buttocks or occasionally elsewhere, as a form of punishment or to maintain control over the submissive.
Role-Playing – This is the act of taking on a different role and identity in BDSM scenarios. Examples can include teacher-student, master-slave, or any other situation where there is a power differential.
Teasing – This involves either physical or verbal teasing aimed at the submissive partner. It’s usually meant as a way to build anticipation and arousal, or as punishment.
These terms and definitions are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what femdom entails. As with any kink, communication and consent are paramount. It’s important to both partners to discuss any activities prior, and ensure that all boundaries are respected. With a bit of exploration and communication, femdom can be an incredibly fulfilling adventure for both participants.